Relationships and Self Love

Here's some of my late night thoughts as I review my day and different sized hurdles. everyone needs and deserves Healthy, Loving mutual relationships but not everyone shares the same understanding of what love really is, where it begins or what it requires. Not everyone is in the same places in life... no matter how much we love, wish, miss or want.
Here's what I have learned if nothing else...
One Healthy relationship between two people begins with two very basic essentials.

Self love.

You gottttta love yourself. loving yourself means you respect yourself. you know your worth, even with all your humanly imperfections. You know your value simply as a human being with a divine purpose.
Why is loving yourself so important...? Why should you love yourself when we are supposed to be loving others? Because the truth is you can not give what you do not have. If you're not loving yourself you are not only cheating yourself... but whom ever truly loves you. You are limiting and blocking loves energy flow in all relationships. Relationships that might be healthy if given the chance.


Loving yourself is respecting, valuing and claiming your worth with dignity. If you're not feeling worthy of your own self love you are immediately lowering the bar. If you don't treat yourself with loving respect by taking care of your mind, body, heart and spirit then you are setting an example for others; the expectations and allowances in how they treat you.

We are only capable of loving others with the same amount of self love we have. We often mistake our co-dependency, insecurity and fears for love. We tag the ones who love us with these and often are tagged right back, depending on the others own heart health. This would be A cycle where 'crazy love' manifests. Abuse.

If we do not love ourselves we settle for less than our birth entitlement and Godly worth. We habitually, unintentionally welcome and attract the people who value themselves with similar self worth. We attract painful situations and circumstances to us. We (often with the other peoples 'help', such as abusers...) then create more reasons for us to devalue ourselves because we feel like 'failures' and keep convincing ourselves we are bad and just have terrible karma. We convince ourselves with our own self talk, and let others falsely confirm, we are deserving of this 'hell' we call life.
The true reality is...this is sadly the furthest thing from the truth. This life is full of choices and doesn't have to be hell on earth. You have the choice to finally claim the life you deserve to have. The choice and power begins with you.

Face yourself...

Face all those things you do not like or 'approve' of in yourself. You are the ONLY one who has an opinion about yourself that really matters. YOU are the captain of your ship and are here to sail to the destiny of your choice. Someone else's opinion  can hurt but realize that your ship may take you to someplace they might only dream about. You are an individual born to sail, not be ship wrecked.

 Self acceptance is a part of self loves. It is time to recognize and embrace yourself as the being you were created to be. ALL of it. If you don't like something that could improve your self image... change it. If you can't change it....Accept it!

Nobody will accept you completely for who and what you are until you do. 

EVERYBODY'S got imperfections! No one is perfect! We are ALL full of ego, character defects and trial and errors! Period. everyone is equally the same but with different strengths and weaknesses. Some strengths and talents are never discovered because we didn't dig deep enough.

 everyone has painful 'skeletons' in the closet from the past! Skeletons a person is in denial of (or afraid of), OR presently coming to terms with OR have already faced. EVERYBODY!  Maybe some skeletons are uglier, more frightening than others.
These skeletons are merely challenges for us to over come. We have already lived them.... we just haven't over come them and let them go.  they are Emotional and mental learning lessons to process through to reach a higher point in this life experience. If they are keeping you from loving yourself and experiencing the purity and goodness of healthy, enlightening, beautiful love ~  the REAL glory of life~ then these experiences are heavy baggage(s) that need to be identified, sorted through, decided upon (worthy of keeping...?)and discarded. It is only when we make room in our minds and hearts that we have availability for goodness . your heart doesn't want the 'skeletons' consuming it's loving space, it wants you to forgive yourself and others so it can do what it was created to do...Love and experience in full expansion.

 As you go through the luggage of the past, the aches and pains... really play around in the thoughts of forgiveness and freedom. Imagine yourself free of those skeletons and baggage that have held you back from experiencing goodness. Imagine yourself free and the possibilities in that freedom. forgiveness is releasing the pain... Forgiveness is freedom.

Easier said than done , yes. Worth the freedom...? absolutely!

so how does one start loving themself ...? One day at a time. Start affirming to yourself daily that you DO deserve to love yourself, feel and experience loving relationships and a fulfilling life. Start letting yourself dream and latch a hope on to those dreams. start talking, listening, observing people who have been where you are at and paved their own way out. Learn from them! Be willing to expand your mind. When you expand your mind so does the heart expand.

Let go of the people, situations and environments that don't respect the transitioning you need to do for yourself. Let go of the ones who don't respect the complete, whole, beautiful person you were created to embrace. that is their own judgments and insecurities they need to deal within themselves. You Don't own theirs! you are not responsible for their changes and transitions they too need to make, in THEIR own time. You deserve this time to focus and reclaim YOU. It is not selfish ... it is an opportunity you were born to take!


As Ive said before...In the heart is the bridge to the soul. There you will find beauty, purity, light and an unconditional love that feels just like home. ;)

Hope and love to all... ♥

releasing...

everyone throws around and projects their judgments, perceptions on each other....and yet, everyone walking this earth has been less than 'cool', has been judged, hurt, betrayed etc. at some point.

One humans ego is no better than the other.

in order to grow, everyone has to identify these associated feelings, people, and experiences within ourselves in order to release the feelings attached. We have to acknowledge the hurt and betrayal we have caused and done to others. All these attached feelings to others wrong doings and judgments, as well as our own judgments, become our blockages. these feelings imprison our minds, hearts and spirit.
when we realize this, when we are tired and have finally had enough, we see each other for who and what we are... we let go of who and what is too painful to hang on to. We release ourselves. We start detaching through forgiveness. We release the hearts toxins, remove the chains and bondage....we mentally, emotionally, spiritually free ourselves.... ♥

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Continuous Awakening

My life: quiet, serene, peace and happiness. Like nothing I have ever known or experienced before.
It consists of continuous awakening. A Willingness to open up my true self, feel, heal and let go. A willingness to transform, just BE loving, simple and happy with no more fears! Slowly Letting go of this world and life as I've known it. Letting go of all the judgments and perceptions as I chose to live in.
These days are about change changing old beliefs. The only thing to fear about change... is fear its self...the egos imagination.

I try very hard to do what I gotta do, protecting this life transformation with peaceful, love and compassion. I have to protect myself in order to continue going deeper because I know what is right for me (and it just feels good to be peacefully happy 90% of the time! :) I study. I learn. I meditate. I practice. I have made and continuously make friends with others who share, know, believe and are  consciously ascending themselves. I set boundaries. I meet challenges as they are brought to me knowing there is light at the 'end' of the tunnel. I have to transform my life thus transform karma. there is no better time than now. I refuse to make any U turns in this life time. It is time to learn from all these experiences and lessons. it just makes sense to me to naturally (without stimulants) choose happiness and peace over pain and misery.

call me crazy, but im sooo not the only one. Ive got friends all over the world who are also living this life as one. Anyone and everyone can make the choice...:))) Those who don't, even loved ones who thing Im losing my mind, I'm not about judging knowing they are living out their own 'blueprint'. They can and hopefully will change it in their own time, at their own free will. Their journey isn't mine to change. I love them, here and beyond.....

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Feeling wonderful in my own skin

 I love that I've finally come to that spot in life that insecurity, fear, jealousy and resentment no longer rule me and keep my life in dramatic turmoil and darkness. when you make the choice to face everything you are in complete honesty because you simply cant stand living a recycled life and are ready to do whatever you got to do to change it... the result is inner peace and true happiness.
 You dig deep enough to uncover who you reeeeally are. spirit. Your real reality, your truth. The bi-products are self worth, self respect , self confidence, strength, courage and fearlessness.

You still have to deal with the 'dream reality' which is all ego, insecurities, fears and sadness but you do not negotiate or compromise yourself anymore because you know and understand you were born to have these qualities, along with the right to reclaim them at any age.

you put space between the toxic relationships, people, places and things in your life that  pull you down and drain your positive energy. you love and exercise forgiveness, compassion, understanding, seeing clearly the whole picture others have yet to realize.  You realize you're not  so 'different' and alone because there's an endless amount of support, understanding,  friends and compassionate, kind loving souls you never knew before. Half of the world is ascending, you are no longer alone.

<3 I am me. My spirit is my truth. The goodness IS a good thing.. LOVING Is beautiful. Forgiving IS safe. Being me from the inside out IS freedom. finally! Yes there is hurt, disappointment but theres healthy ways of dealing and releasing it ... quickly! there is no more fear. I used to think being me sucked... now , I'm grateful for the life I've led; the sadness, grief, pain and hardships that have brought me to this point, made me, the person I am today.  Authentically, genuinely... the OWNER of my peace and happiness.

EVERYBODY has this same choice! We were born with the God given opportunity to discover who and what we really are and create our own paths. At 40 years old... I finally figured it out. <3

conscious living

ALL changes, whether they be personal to meet individual goals,  to recreate family, society  or planetary dynamics... start individually, one person at a time.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                           When we investigate the contentment within our lives by going within ourselves, we start examining the changes that are needed to become and create better, more of what we want. This is the first foot foreword to creating more of better. we follow that foot with another, consciously becoming aware of our own thoughts, beliefs, attitudes, actions... positive and negative, what needs to change.  We consciously and subconsciously begin moving foreword, one step in front of the other. With an inner compass we embrace the journey into positive direction, into positive personal, life changing experiences. We start realizing the changes not just in our habitual thinking, but in how we feel, what we see, understand and experience.

Everything we do for ourselves has an impact on those around us be it family, society, humanity as a whole. everything we think, say, do and display by attitude is an energy we not only influence others with ... but send to the universe. The universe acts as a boomerang and brings back to us these thoughts actions, words, attitudes, and environmental situations to our lives. Positive or negative... Nothing is a one time deal.  example; Sitting alone with your thoughts with no one around; those thoughts are creating a future experience and situation that you might not be alone in later.) everything we think, believe, say, act and do has an influence on others, in others lives.

All this being understood ... what do I spend most of my time doing now...? changing my thought patterns. Consciously and abruptly stopping negative thoughts in mid-thought and replacing it with a positive thought. A positive thought that I will not mind dealing with later, or better yet... will manifest a happy, peaceful situation, and/or circumstance later.

In every situation whether it being socializing, working, driving alone in our car listening to music or consciously meditating,... we are creating our future. We are influencing each other. We are creating our futures, our personal life AND our lives together on this planet as a whole.
Imagine what we could do with that... one person at a time.

As with all changing, breaking of old habits and creating new habits... it takes TIME. we must not give up. we must be persistent and preserver foreword. Not everyday can or will be perfect, but if we consciously keep in mind how much everyday matters... everyday is a step foreword creating positive change. The days add up, changes become noticeable within ourselves first, because we are paying attention, because we feel different, better, happier...inner peace. In time the changes actually manifest in our lives. What we have diligently worked to recreate will prove worthy of effort. Imagine the gift we could be giving our children. We are their examples, and they are our tomorrow.